The Losses of Our Lives: The Sacred Gifts of Renewal in Everyday Loss
Find hope and renewal in life's natural cycle of ordinary losses and new beginnings.
"When we intentionally enter into our everyday walk through small losses, the terrain of larger losses, the valley of the shadow of death, is not totally unknown. It is not completely unfamiliar, alien, terrifying, for we have walked some of this way before with our lesser losses. We can journey through this valley of loss, for journey through it we must. And we can emerge markedly changed, but alive, on the other side."
―from the Prologue
Going beyond loss as a problem to be resolved, a grief to be worked through, Dr. Nancy Copeland-Payton, a spiritual director and ordained clergywoman, reframes loss from the perspective that our everyday losses help us learn what we need to handle the major losses. Weaving in spiritual and classical themes, personal and scriptural story, Dr. Copeland-Payton shows us that by becoming aware of what our lesser losses have to teach us, the larger losses of our lives become less terrifying. Each chapter includes a spiritual practice and questions for reflection to help you:
- Mine the hidden depths of painful losses of things and places
- Traverse the devastating loss of relationships and the heart-wrenching death of people we love.
- Overcome the steep, dark slopes of loss of beliefs and faith.
- Venture past our fear of the losses of aging and our own death.
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Book details
- Author
- Nancy Jean Copeland-Payton
- Imprint
- SkyLight Paths, an imprint of Turner Publishing Company
- Published
- Formats
- Paperback
- Subjects
- Self-Help › Personal Growth
Self-Help › Death, Grief, Bereavement - Topics
- grief and loss · spiritual growth · death and dying · new beginnings · everyday losses · Christian spirituality · hope and renewal
- ISBN-13
- 9781594733079 (Paperback)9781594732713 (Hardcover)
About the author
DR. NANCY COPELAND-PAYTON is an ordained clergywoman in the Presbyterian Church (USA), a spiritual director, and a physician who practiced emergency medicine and internal medicine for twenty years. She is the author of The Losses of Our Lives: The Sacred Gifts of Renewal in Everyday Loss.
Copeland-Payton served a nine-year ministry at First Presbyterian Church in Sandpoint, Idaho, and has directed the two-year Spiritual Training Program at Gonzaga University. She has also worked as a hospital chaplain and church pastor.
When she’s not writing, Copeland-Payton leads retreats and workshops at monasteries, church centers, and with hospice organizations, and speaks as a presenter on loss and renewal. Her work draws directly on her decades accompanying people through life’s losses.
Nancy lives in Bonner County, Idaho, and is married with three grown sons.





