Be a Good Man, Not a Nice Guy
Being “nice” is not the same as being good — and it’s costing men their confidence, relationships, and purpose.
In Be a Good Man, Not a Nice Guy, author, speaker, and modern masculinity advocate Kelvin Davis challenges the outdated idea that men have to be passive, agreeable, and approval-seeking to be accepted — especially in love and life. This book is a wake-up call for men who are tired of being overlooked, misunderstood, or emotionally disconnected because they’ve been told to play it safe.
Through honest storytelling, cultural insight, and actionable tools, Davis guides readers through the transformation from a “nice guy” who performs to be liked… into a good man who leads with truth, character, and emotional strength.
This is not a book about being macho or dominant — it’s about being real, grounded, and responsible. Whether you’re navigating relationships, fatherhood, or personal growth, this book helps you reconnect with your core values and redefine what it means to be a man in today’s world.
Who It’s For:
- Men who feel stuck in relationships where they can’t be fully themselves
- Readers seeking emotional maturity and purpose-driven masculinity
- Women wanting to understand the inner world of the “nice guy”
- Coaches, therapists, and educators guiding men through personal growth
You’ll Learn:
- Why being “nice” is often a mask for fear and insecurity
- How to set boundaries without guilt
- What healthy masculinity actually looks like
- How to stop people-pleasing and start self-leading
- The habits of emotionally intelligent, grounded men
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Book details
- Author
- Kelvin Davis
- Imprint
- TMA Press, an imprint of Turner Publishing Company
- Published
- Pages
- 208
- Formats
- Hardcover, Paperback
- Subjects
- Self-Help › Gender & Sexuality
Self-Help › Motivational & Inspirational
Self-Help › Personal Growth - Topics
- healthy masculinity · male confidence · personal growth · modern manhood · relationships · self-improvement for men · purpose and identity
- ISBN-13
- 9798887981062 (Hardcover)9798887981055 (Paperback)
About the author
KELVIN DAVIS is a size-inclusive male model, motivational speaker, and body positivity advocate. He is the author of Notoriously Dapper: How to be a Modern Gentleman with Manners, Style and Body Confidence.
Davis’s book was nominated for the 2018 NAACP Image Award. He has been featured in The New York Times, The Daily Mail, and The New York Post for his contributions to male body positivity.
When not writing, Davis runs Notoriously Dapper, a blog celebrating self-love, confidence, and style for men of all sizes. His work challenges traditional beauty standards and promotes inclusivity in the fashion industry, themes that run throughout his writing and public advocacy.